Wednesday, October 8, 2014
Yes, this is the title of an excellent
film from back in the 80’s but it has also become my mantra before my “BFF”
Joey comes out to Scottsdale, AZ. God love him for leaving Boston to travel to
the cultural wasteland of Arizona for 32 hours of visitation with me. It means
a lot but truthfully, I can’t say for sure that even I would do it, if the
roles were reversed.
No matter how one looks at the
situation, we are long overdue for a visit. We keep each other in check and I
think both of us have been pacing the edge of that proverbial cliff for some
time. Things have become bottled up and abnormal stress levels have come into
our lives. Not surprisingly, we view these concerns in a completely separate,
opposite manner. Issues around aging have become a factor for each of us in
different ways. We are both doing what we must do to ‘get by’ but, I don’t think
either one of us are in authentically happy places right now. I will know more
soon enough.
There is an undeniable white elephant
to deal with as well and that is that somehow, all of the motivation and
determination to find a home in Boston has come to a crawl. It is a
conversation that mom, Joey and I will have to have together. The irony is that
it works for all of us simply because we are friends. No matter what, I will
always be the “child” to my mother. But Joey is the perfect mediator for times
like these so I will certainly take advantage of the opportunity.
What I know for sure is that by the
time Joey has boarded the plane back to Boston, he will have smacked me around,
given me a jab, an upper cut and a bucket of ice water. (Metaphorically
speaking…) Trust and believe that I will have had a very similar effect on him.
It is our duty to one another in a way. He and I are well aware of how
important these visits are.
Surprisingly, I have the impression
that my mom is more excited to see him than even I am. I am glad for that
because Joey has a tremendous effect on her. She gets a spark back and seems
lighter on her feet in a way. Perhaps it is because he represents change and
all the great things that invariably she is striving toward at the moment.
Right now, as I sit here, I know Joey
will be here in a couple of days and I can tell you that I sense that something
is going to happen during his time here. I foresee a monumental shift, a change
in mind or a revelation that will affect the plans that have already been made.
I know it. I feel it and truth be told. It doesn’t terrify me. It instead,
makes me question the skills I have developed to manage change and adaptation.
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